"You can remember her and only that she has gone, or you can cherish her memory and let it live on. You can cry, close your mind, be empty and turn your back, or you can do what she would want...... smile, open your eyes, love life and go on." These words were written and left to me by my own mother....I think she was trying to tell me I had done all I could for her. I am sure your Mum would be wanting to say the same to you right now Alison. Jim.....my thoughts are with you old friend, I will call you later.